Sometimes I have abstract ideas but bare with me. A few years back I read a blog by a guy who says he carries two sets of shoes to work: one pair as business attire and one for those LONG trips to the bathroom. He went on to say that the embarrassment of what he’d sometimes leave behind in the restroom was enough to make him want to disassociate himself from it completely. Soooo, he changed shoes.

What’s my point?

A lot of times women attempt to “change shoes”. We cover our insecurities, pain, hurt of the past by a pair of stilettos and a smile. We play the game in order to find companionship. All the while, we do not realize that the “stench” of our baggage is still following us. Perpetrating a fraud, we are taught to do what it takes to “catch him” and then keep up the charade to “keep him”. However, we still carry a heavy heart and if we had to be completely honest with ourselves, we are unhappy. Most of us weren’t happy individuals before we set foot in the Red Lobster with our little black dress, two sizes too small, tags still on it, and receipt tucked in our new clutch. Whatever you’ve come through makes you a survivor- not a victim. I often refer to the Apostle Paul when I feel like I’m about to “snatch” something or somebody. He said, “Encourage Yourself in the Lord”. A happy heart is the most attractive quality a woman can have. It’s time we learn to rock the mess out of the shoes we’re in!